Part of the writer life is rejection. No human being accepts and likes rejection from the jump (okay, that’s a blanket statement, but what five year old wants to be told no?). Yet, we experience rejection throughout our lives, probably daily.
Since I’m querying, I know more rejection will come. BUT. . . I’ve sent out two queries before last week, both of which were rejected. I’ve entered contests, both of which I didn’t win.
So far I learned (the abbreviated version):
- Subjectivity. It’s alive and kicking, and you have to rationalize with yourself about it. Do you want help from someone who doesn’t love your writing style or story? I don’t. That’s like asking me to work on a math thesis. I will dislike you for it, and as hellbent on being a perfectionist as I am, I will lose patience and probably do a sub-par job. Math is not my thing, just like fantasy or romance can be someone else’s math.
- Are you ready? Ha. This one is a hard one for me, but luckily I have some of the world’s best CPs. No, seriously. I forced my CP Lindsey into answering this question for me. It went something like: throw document at her, run away and pretend she doesn’t have it, and get it back with a green-light answer. Keep in mind, I didn’t ask her to look until I was almost certain. As certain as I could be. Does that mean the document is perfect? I tried, but I think most writers usually edit published works in their own heads. So, things can always improve.
- Hope vs. Despair. I want to hope my novel will land in the lap of the perfect agent, but I don’t want to build myself up and watch my agent hopes turn to ash. Agent hunting can be a true test of self-worth. I remind myself that failure to find an agent doesn’t means my writing isn’t worthy of reaching the public, and nor do I think it should stop me from self-publishing. But balancing hope, skepticism, despair, and about a thousand other emotions is hard.
I’m not excited about more rejection, but I won’t let it stop me from writing and pressing on. If you search, you can find hundreds of writing journey stories. They are all different. They are all intensely personal. (More blanket statements 🙂 ) Rejection is part of this life, and I’m not going to let the fear of it dictate the path ahead. I need to remember what I’ve learned. Agent viewpoints and likes are subjective. I’ve worked my ass off to create an MS I think is ready to kick out of the nest. And I need to remain balanced. Hopefully, I’ll keep learning too, but in the meantime, I’ll handle what life/ rejection/ writing throws at me.